Sitting in an empty room.

Have you ever just sat in a crowded room, and felt that it was completely empty?

Me too, quite often actually.

 

Loneliness can be one of the worst feelings to have, its cold shadow slowly enveloping you until it’s swallowed you whole. I used to think I was quite extroverted, and loved to surround myself with lots of people. Something happened along the way though, and that attention-loving, extroverted girl met loneliness’ shadow.

It can be a difficult thing to try and explain to others who don’t experience it very often, and when they don’t understand it can only make things worse. Loneliness can really start to mess with your head, and show you kinds of pain you never thought you’d encounter. Some possible symptoms of loneliness may include: anxiety, growing quieter, feelings of abandonment, fear of judgement and hostility from peers, and the worry that no one can see you.

If you are experiencing these symptoms, you may or may not be feeling lonely. If this does apply to you, know that it is not your fault and most of your fears are probably all in your head. I know it’s hard to hear, but most of the time there is not a cure for loneliness. Some may suggest you hang out with friends, force yourself to go out, try and meet new people; but the truth is, you just need to face the loneliness.

I’ve been there. You have a handful of people you would call your closest friends, and yet they still feel so extremely distant. You feel like no one notices you, and that you are the last person on everyones mind. And the fact is, I don’t know what to tell you. Quite frankly, I’m trying to find the cure myself. It sucks. It really does. All I can tell you so far from what I’ve learned from my experiences, is that it’s okay to spend time with yourself. If at times you feel overwhelmed or mentally and physically drained from being around others; spend some time alone. Don’t be afraid to confront those feelings head on, and truly feel them. Listen to music, write down your thoughts, take a walk by yourself; have a conversation with loneliness.

I can’t promise you that this will fix everything, and make loneliness go away forever; I can promise you that the more you address those feelings, the easier it gets.

Loneliness doesn’t last forever. It comes and goes, but it’s not forever. You are not alone, you don’t go unnoticed, you are the first person on someone’s mind. Sitting in that empty room, someone will eventually sit in the chair next to you; and the room won’t be empty anymore.

 

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The Power of Thought.

Steadfast skeptic or not, you have dreams. These dreams may seem utterly unattainable, or as simple as learning how to ride a bike. As humans, we are hard-wired to set goals for ourselves. What if i told you that you have complete control over the outcome of those goals? You would probably roll your eyes at me, right? Hold on to those pupils for just a moment, and let me tell you about the law of attraction.

Rome wasn’t built in a day, and neither is your ability to manifest your thoughts. It takes time and diligence, but I promise you it isn’t rocket science. Let’s start off with this dream of yours. Do you want to nail that job interview, finally learn how to perfect your Crème brûlée? Let’s start small. Now i want you to make sure that this is something you truly want, and believe that it is feasible. I can’t make any promises that you are going to be the next Justin Bieber, but heck, if that kid can do it; you might as well be able to. The thing about the law of attraction, is you need to have the right intentions. Start off with a positive affirmation. For example: “I will pass my midterm tomorrow”, rather than “I don’t want to fail my midterm tomorrow”. Think positive, and manifest what you DO want rather than what you don’t want to happen. You are pretty much just saying, “I want to fail my midterm tomorrow.” The universe isn’t a fan of negative contractions, like our buddy ‘don’t’ over here.

Keep manifesting those thoughts, and you’re already well on your way. The Universe isn’t going to do all of the work for you, so you definitely have to put in the effort to make those dreams a reality. Best of luck to you, and becoming the next Justin Bieber!

I’ll leave you with this Buddha quote, that isn’t actually from Buddha, but it’s still pretty good.

“What you think, you become. What you feel, you attract. What you imagine, you create.”

We need to have the talk.

Don’t worry, it’s not what you think. This talk isn’t about sexual health, it’s about mental health. Although, we might as well just put them in the same category; they seem to be equally as taboo of a subject. Why is this though? Just because you can’t see it, doesn’t mean we should completely disregard it. We need to talk about how you can stay home from school or work if you are physically sick, but not mentally. Let’s talk about how physical education in the school system is mandatory, up to at least grade 9. Yet, we only give about a week out of that curriculum to discuss mental health. Depression and anxiety aren’t ‘fads’, they are extremely prevalent mental disorders in today’s youth (around 20%).

As if being a teenager isn’t confusing enough. All those raging hormones, your brain is still developing, and on top of it all: suffering from mental health issues. I want you to know that it is okay to have bad days. In fact, it’s completely okay to have 20 bad days in a row. It’s okay to have panic attacks when being put in stressful situations, or not wanting to get out of bed some days. But you need to understand that you cannot let your diagnosis define the way that you live your life. I know it’s hard, but there are so many ways to minimize those bad days. What makes you happy? Is it music? Video games? Being outdoors? Whatever it may be, do it more. Try and do it at least once a day. If a prescription medication is something you think you would benefit from, go for it. Do what you need to do to take care of you. Don’t ever let anyone delegitimize your mental health. You are not alone.

Having seasonal depression, I find it easy to lose sight of the things that make me happy as the days get shorter, and the nights get colder. It’s almost like my mood is a reflection of the forecast for that day or season. I absolutely dread the winter, as I completely lack any motivation at all. I begin to get more negative, and less excited about the days that pass by. But that is no way to live life. I have learned to live with this disorder, and not let it define the person that I want to be. I found those things I am passionate about, and made the choice to continue them; even on the days I don’t feel like getting up. No matter who you are, no matter what the circumstances; there is always going to be people who are willing to listen. I promise it gets easier. Even though it may seem impossible some days, happiness is attainable.